Twenty Phrases That May Indicate You Have an Abusive Partner
By Thomas B. Haller, M.Div., M.S.W., A.C.S.W., D.S.T.
co-author of Couple Talk
- “Because I said so.”
- “It’s your fault.”
- “I don’t want you talking to/seeing her.”
- “I’ll tell you what to do.”
- “You’re not going out of the house looking like that.”
- “You don’t need to know.”
- “I handle the money.”
- “You know what your problem is?”
- “This is for your own good.”
- “You Bitch!”
- “Shut-up!”
- “You don’t know what you’re talking about.”
- “We’re NOT doing it that way.”
- “If you don’t like it, tuff!”
- “Get over it!”
- “You’ll be sorry.”
- “You’ll never find anyone that will treat you as good as I do.”
- “We never……….because of you.” (have sex, go on vacation, have any extra money, have any friends, have any fun)
- “I DARE you to…….leave, find another man, lip off to me one more time, raise your voice to me.”
- “. . . or else.” “Don’t you tell anyone or else.”
“Get this house clean or else.”
“Have my dinner ready when I get home or else.”
Thomas B. Haller is a Couples and Family Therapist and the co-author of Couple Talk, a "how-to" book for couples wishing to develop their skills and techniques for enhancing their relationship with their partner. He is also widely sought after as a national and international presenter in the areas of parenting, interpersonal relationships, and chronic pain. Thomas is also the founder and director of Healing Minds Institute, a center devoted to teaching others to focus and enhance the health of the mind, body, and spirit. Visit www.healingmindsinstitute.com for more information on Thomas Haller and his work.
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